When Boomers Inherit Their Parents’ Possessions

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As an elder law attorney, I help clients manage their specific legal needs. But, we also discuss the “big picture,” to put in place a sensible plan that anticipates future events and helps ease the effects of the aging process on the older adult and their families. Naturally, much of this planning involves legal solutions, but there are practical elements to my advice, as well.  For instance, I work with a lot of clients who are “downsizing.” I also help families administer estates after a person has died.  In each situation, it can be a tremendous source of stress and disagreement to divide the tangible personal property, such as furniture, collectibles, jewelry, photos, tools and so forth. Sometimes, Items we love and treasure may not hold the same special place in the hearts—or homes—of our loved ones.


I encourage clients to live with loved and sentimental items as long as they wish and not be pressured to give away these items until they are ready to do so. However, if an individual is ready to give items to a loved one or donate items to charity, that may be a wise idea. Planning ahead can save older adults and their families the stress of a rapid, unexpected downsize (whether to a smaller home or to some sort of long term care facility) or minimize the task of distributing items from an estate once a loved one dies. And whereas our treasured belongings may mean a great deal to us, they be worth far less, financially, than we realize.  For an interesting story on this topic, I encourage you to read the following from the Public Broadcasting System’s NewsHour program.



For help with elder law or estate planning questions issues, call Charlotte-Anne Alexander, Attorney with Colombo Kitchin Attorneys in Greenville, NC, at 252-321-2020.

Last Will and Testament: Dear Friends and Family

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As an elder law and estate planning attorney, I ensure that my clients’ wishes are memorialized in a legally binding manner, creating various estate planning documents, such as Last Wills and Testaments, that clearly reflect disposition of assets once a person dies. Above and beyond describing who gets assets and who will serve as Executor of a Last Will and Testament, more clients are choosing to complete separate documents with lasting emotional, if not legal, meaning.  The link below, to an excellent New York Times article, details the trend. The idea is that we leave behind not merely money or things, but that we affect our friends and loved ones in a more emotional manner. Many clients are writing these family and/or friend letters to let loved ones know how much they mean to us, recall treasured life events or memories, forgive events in the past, apologize or ask forgiveness. The article provides a link to a helpful “Dear Friends and Family” template.  I recommend to clients that if they complete this document, store it with the Last Will and Testament and request that the Executor distribute it to loved ones when we pass.

Dear Friends and Family Template

Importance of Estate Planning for Elders

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If you have elder law questions or need assistance with estate planning, contact Charlotte-Anne Alexander with Colombo Kitchin Attorneys at 252-321-2020.  

Elder law attorneys routinely help families with the many legal and logistical entanglements when loved ones lose the ability to manage their own financial affairs or otherwise need to hand over responsibilities. Too often, we elder law attorneys work with families when there is a crisis, for instance, when someone is admitted to a hospital or when caring for a loved one has become overwhelming and finances are in jeopardy.  While many people are hesitant to consider that, one day, they might not be able to manage their own financial needs, the failure to make plans can be financially devastating and incredibly stressful for loved ones, minimizing some helpful options.  Estate planning should be a basic, smart part of everyone’s plan for their future. Working with an experienced elder law attorney to create legally correct documents that reflect your personal wishes not only gives you peace of mind but can be a tremendous help to the loved ones who must manage your financial affairs when and if you cannot.  The following Wall Street Journal article nicely illustrates, in real-life terms, why families need to have clear communication about finances and work with their attorneys to ensure that all necessary legal documents are completed before there is a crisis.  As the saying goes, an ounce of prevention really is worth a pound of cure.



Estate and Advance Health Care Planning

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Sometimes, life hands us unexpected challenges, which cause us to consider whether our affairs are in order. Many of us have plenty on our plates, dealing with day-to-day responsibilities and do not relish the idea of tackling the details of future planning, even though we know it is an important part of life. Thoughtful estate and advance care planning offers many advantages, both for the individual and for the loved ones who want guidance about important decision-making once a person needs assistance managing his or her affairs, becomes incapacitated or dies. It is never too early to plan, and the resulting financial protection and peace of mind can be priceless for everyone involved.

So, what documents do we need? Consider at least four basic (4) documents to express your wishes. First, everyone ought to have a Durable Power of Attorney. This document allows you to choose a highly trusted person to serve as your “Attorney-in-Fact,” to handle your financial affairs if you cannot manage or do not wish to manage your own affairs. This document can save loved ones a great deal of stress and money if an individual becomes incapacitated and needs someone to have the legal authority to pay bills, sell property and handle a range of financial matters. The legal authority given to the Attorneys-in-Fact ends upon death.

Second, everyone should consider a Health Care Power of Attorney. This document allows you to choose trusted individuals to make a range of health care decisions if you cannot make or communicate your own wishes for care. In deciding who to name as your Health Care Agent, consider who will do their best to be present and carry out your wishes.

Third, consider a Living Will, sometimes called an “Advance Directive for a Natural Death.” A Living Will allows you to clearly express your wishes for end-of-life care if (1) you have an incurable or irreversible condition that will result in your death within a relatively short period of time; (2) you have become unconscious, and your health care providers have determined that, to a high degree of medical certainty, you will never regain consciousness; and/or (3) you are suffering from advanced dementia or any other condition which results in the substantial loss of cognitive ability, and your health care providers determine that, to a high degree of medical certainty, this loss is not reversible. Many individuals have strong feelings about wanting (or not wanting) life-prolonging medical care toward the end of their life. It is crucial to make your wishes known to your loved ones and to medical professionals. A Living Will is an excellent way to make sure that your personal wishes are followed.

Before either a Health Care Power of Attorney or a Living Will can take effect, a physician must decide if a person lacks capacity to make or communicate his or her own health care decisions. And be sure to discuss your specific health care and end-of-life care wishes with your doctor and those individuals who will serve as your agent(s).

Finally, it is always a good idea to have a Last Will and Testament. In general terms, a Last Will and Testament allows you to decide who gets your property when you die. In this document, you will name someone to serve as “Executor” (or Executrix or Personal Representative), who has the legal authority to settle your estate in keeping with your written wishes. If you do not have a safe, secure location to store your will, you can take the original Last Will and Testament to the local Clerk of Court’s office for safekeeping.
While it is not required that an attorney draft these (and other) essential estate and advance health care planning documents, it is a very good idea to have professional guidance. There is a lot of incorrect legal information floating around and it is wise to get skilled advice to ensure that your documents are customized to meet your needs and wishes, as well as all legal requirements. Well-drafted estate planning documents frequently manage your needs for many years, successfully putting your affairs in good order and giving peace of mind.
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Charlotte-Anne T. Alexander, Attorney at Law, whose practice focuses on elder law and estate planning. Colombo Kitchin Attorneys, 252-321-2020. Calexander@ck-attorneys.com